On the First Principles of Feminism and the Double-Sided Solution to Power Inequality

if you’re a man, upset about being left out of the conversation on feminism, then this is a post for you.

(a behind-the-scenes look into my DM conversation with traca savadogo (a bold ambitious mastermind founder, TEDx speaker, and all-around badass))

traca: there’s someone important in my life. we were talking this weekend about feminism. his take on it is that men aren't against feminism, but they're angry about being shut out of the discussion. i need to unpack that more with him but I'm curious about your take on feminism.

me: i think that, at its core, feminism is all about power, and, more specifically, about achieving a more equal distribution of power.

there’s been such a gross inequality, favoring men, since the beginning of time. so, you can’t really be angry about being shut out of the discussion without also being against feminism because favoring women, for now, is what correcting that inequality looks like… right?

it seems to me that there’s a double-sided solution here:

1) men have to get less terrible (in terms of perpetuating inequality, whether they do so consciously or not), and

2) women have to get better (in terms of speaking up, getting what they rightly deserve, etc)

the problem is… if you help women without also trying to correct the problems with men, then you’re only addressing half of the double-sided solution.

and i’d maybe even go so far as to say, it’s more important to fix the problems with men — rape culture, corporate culture, etc — than it is to help women get better, simply because women are amazing as they are, and, given the space to thrive, they will do so with flying colors.

reversal: people rarely give up their power willingly, so more women should be taught to take what they rightfully deserve, without being apologetic and without fear of being called “bitchy.”

if they do this consistently for long enough, then the distribution of power will eventually even itself out, men won’t have such a high pedestal from which to “punch down,” and women can more effectively fight back.

P.S. i made some massive generalizations here and “all generalizations are false including this one.”

P.P.S what are *your* thoughts on this conversation, dear reader?